The Mother of All Pregnancy Books, by Ann Douglas
The Mother of All Pregnancy Books walks expectant parents step-by-step through hot topics most pregnancy books shy away from. Packed with all the facts
on preparing your body for pregnancy and breastfeeding, and addressing such topics as pain relief during labor, circumcision, the top ten worries for
each trimester, and more, this comprehensive, forthcoming guide is a must-have for the most important nine months of your life.
The Pregnancy Library
Pregnancy Library.com is your launching pad to the best pregnancy resources that the Web has to offer, as hand-picked by bestselling pregnancy and parenting
book author Ann Douglas.
This site feels right to me. I checked into their mission statement and I looked around a little. It was created by parents, for parents. The advice seems
sound and I was intrigued by lots of the articles and categories. Check it out:
Expecting Change, by Ellen Sue Stern
I read Ellen Sue Stern's book EXPECTING CHANGE when I was pregnant, and when my child was born I re-read and practically memorized the last two
chapters: "Postpartum" and "Woman to Mother." She talks about how your key relationships change when you have a baby. She describes
the unpredictable swings of mood and the slippery slope toward postpartum depression that every mother is near.
Depression after Childbirth, by Katharina Dalton and Wendy M. Holton, Oxford University Press.
This is a scientific analysis of the state of what's described by these British authors as Post NATAL depression. It is helpful to understand how to diagnose
the situation for anyone who is around a mom who is struggling to care for herself or her infant when her hormones are imbalanced and she's lost
in the lonely world of depression.
Composing Myself, by Fiona Shaw, Steerforth Press, 1998
This is a very personal, detailed description of the author's journey through postpartum depression. It's really engaging, and, I have to say, slightly
MotherShock, by Andrea Buchanan, Seal Press, 2003
Mother Shock is a refreshing and down-to-earth look at the birth of a mother. In 30 essays, author Andrea
Buchanan shares the insights she gains as she overcomes the culture shock of new motherhood, from the overwhelming
feelings of first love for her baby to the disturbing and often hilarious darker side of mothering, to finally reaching
a place where she not only speaks the language but understands the customs of this strange and wonderful world.
My sister, mother of a four month old, loved this book. She followed our mom around the kitchen, reading sections
out loud, and alternately laughing and crying....
Your Amazing Newborn, by Marshall and Phyllis Klaus, Perseus Books, 1998
This marvelous book shows photos and offers insight into the baby's experience. We learn what the BABY is doing and thinking and dealing with as she experiences
HER first days outside of the womb. Who IS this little baby? We gain valuable insights to help unlock the secret messages communicated by newborn babies.
"Depression after Childbirth," from the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center
This is an easy to read brochure which describes the symptoms of postpartum depression and offers further reading and support.
"Beyond Baby Blues: Understanding and Coping With Postpartum Depression" by Melanie Lawrence, © Copyright
2001 by Parents' Press. Here's a first hand account of postpartum depression with a sidebar devoted to lots of resources.
(NOTE: Several books are referred to within this program. Attitudes toward sleep patterns and bedtime
rituals vary widely in our country and it is important for each family to find what feels right to them. Here’s a quote
from the show:
"I don’t know...welcome to parenthood for god’s sake, where you have to choose how you’re going
to do what you’re going to do from a bunch of conflicting information, your own experiences, and from the many influences
Like life, only harder.” —Nanci Olesen)
Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, by Marc Weissbluth
This book presents a very careful pattern of how to get a baby to sleep consistently. Check out this link to see an interview with Dr. Weissbluth:
Solve Your Child’s Sleep Problems, by Dr. Richard Ferber.
Richard Ferber is director of the Center for Pediatric Sleep Disorders at Children's Hospital in Boston. Since writing his book, he's become known as
a leading—and controversial—pediatric sleep expert. The "Ferber Method" involves allowing your child to cry herself to sleep. The
parent visits to comfort the child at intervals.
To many parents, this method is the one that helped reclaim family sanity and sleep.
Here’s a link that I recommend:
Attachment Parenting, by Katie Allison Granju
Katie is a strong voice in the Attachment Parenting movement. This book provides the definition and style of attachment parenting. Sleeping with your
baby is advocated by attachment parents, and Katie lets us know why she feels this works well. READ
THIS GREAT INTERVIEW WITH KATIE.
Our Babies, Ourselves, by Meredith Small
Meredith Small examines our culture's traditional views on parenting and suggests that we reconsider them. Although "sleep methods" are not
addressed in this review, here’s a link to a review that I found helpful:
Good Nights: The Happy Parents' Guide to the Family Bed (and a Peaceful Night's Sleep!) by Dr. Jay Gordon
Here’s the link to Dr. Jay Gordon’s site. He is a friendly and happy attachment parent, who feels that establishing a family bed is a comfortable
and easy thing for a family to do.
I like his cheerful attitude and I think he has a lot of sound advice.
The Pediatric Sleep Disorders Program at Children's Hospitals and Clinics—St. Paul, Minnesota
In the Sleep Show, host
Nanci Olesen interviews Dr. John Garcia, who is a specialist with The Pediatric Sleep Disorders Program in St. Paul. Drs.
John Garcia and Gerald Rosen are both board certified in pediatrics and sleep medicine. Rosen and
Garcia each blend a pediatrician’s knowledge of children and families with specialized expertise in the relatively
new science of sleep medicine. This is the kind of help a parent might seek if she is finding that her child is suffering
from lack of sleep or is having a particularly hard time establishing a sleep routine. To contact the Pediatric Sleep Disorders
Program Children’s Hospitals and Clinics, St. Paul, call 651-220-6258. The website for Children’s is: http://www.childrenshc.org.
"Surviving Toddlerhood" by Gary Hansen
A short, easy article, written by Gary Hansen, extension specialist in Sociology, for the Kentucky Cooperative Extension Service.:
"Penelope Leach on Toddlerhood"
Babycentre, a website in the UK, has a page which is dedicated to a
conversation with Penelope Leach's answers to some common questions that parents of toddlers may have.
Penelope Leach is described as "one of the world's leading and most trusted authorities on parenting
and child development. The author of numerous books, including the classic Your Baby and Child, now in its fourth
printing. Leach lives and works in London, England.
"Exodus from Toddlerhood" by Faith R. Foyil
Faith R. Foyil is a columnist, and humorist, who writes often about her life as a mom. This essay is based on the Ten Commandments. I found it entertaining...
Parenting Guide to Your Toddler, by Paula Spencer and the editors of Parenting Magazine
Award-winning journalist Paula Spencer writes "The Mom Next Door" column in Woman's Day magazine and is the author of seven books.
A mother of four, Paula specializes in writing about parenting and family, pregnancy, women's health, and related social issues. She's a contributing
editor to Parenting, Baby Talk, and Woman's Day.
I think that this kind of reference book can be helpful to many parents. I bounce back and forth between my "alternative" books
and my "mainstream" books when I’m trying to figure out what’s going on in the mind and body of my
child. This is a good book:
I found an illuminating, one page essay about Toddlerhood at:
(Washburn Child Guidance Center is a non-profit agency that provides assessment, consultation and therapeutic services for children, families and schools
in the Twin Cities metro-area.)
I love those one page essays! I mean, you have a TODDLER, right?
"If there’s a toddler in your life, I hope that you’ve gleaned some insight or at least felt
some companionship during this half hour of MOMbo. Enjoy these sticky days, as the juice box explodes in the back seat because
your own personal two year old investigative reporter is trying out new ways to get the apple juice into her mouth."
—Nanci Olesen, "Toddlerhood,"
NOW YOU MOMbo
Fear and Other Uninvited Guests: Tackling the Anxiety, Fear, and Shame That Keeps Us From Optimal Living
and Loving by Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., Harper Collins Publishers
I have interviewed Harriet three times over the course of the last ten years and we have always had great
conversations. When she wrote The Mother Dance, (another highly recommended book) we were featured together on a show at
KFAI (Minneapolis, MN) that was called "The Family Day Care Show."
This book came along at just the moment that I was starting to get my guests organized for the WORRY Show.
I highly recommend it. From the book jacket:
"No one signs up for anxiety, fear, and shame, but we can’t avoid them either. As we learn to respond
to these three key emotions in new ways, we can live more fully in the present and move into the future with courage, clarity,
humor, and hope. Fear and Other Uninvited Guests shows us how.
The Shelter of Each Other: Rebuilding our Families by Mary Pipher, Ph.D., Ballantine Books
Mary Pipher is a peer of Harriet Lerner, and I have been lucky enough to interview Mary several times. When I think of the subject of WORRY, I think of
the changes that have occurred in the American family in the last century, causing us to become a very anxious society. Mary Pipher is the one who laid
this concept out for me in The Shelter of Each Other, and I came to understand what the American family is up against in terms of how quickly
our culture moves and how disengaged we often are from our children. I suggest this book as a resource for the Worry Show because reading it provides
understanding of "where we are" and WHAT WE CAN DO ABOUT IT!!
Here’s something that has no intellectual value but I thought was fun to include:
The Child Anxiety Network:
Anxiety disorders are one of the primary mental health problems affecting children and adolescents today. Given the wide range of stressors associated
with growing up, it is important that our children have appropriate skills for coping with anxiety and other difficult emotions.
The Child Anxiety Network is designed to provide thorough, user-friendly information about child anxiety.
It is also designed to provide direction for those who are not sure where to turn when they think their child or a child
they know may need professional help to cope with anxiety.
The Time Bind: When Work Becomes Home and Home Becomes Work by Arlie Hochschild, Henry Holt and Company,
In our interview on NOW YOU MOMbo: Work/Home, Arlie Hochschild talks about "a paradigm shift"—the idea that we need to start thinking
of a different way of managing our work lives during the early years of raising children. In this book, Arlie presents the research she did with a corporation
based in a medium sized American city. As readers, we follow the lives of parents as they manage their work day and their children’s day care and
home life. I recommend reading The Time Bind to get a handle on the American main stream way of life. I live as a freelancer, and I often peer
into the corporate world and wonder what the joys and woes of that life would be like for me. The Time Bind describes the realities of people who sometimes
become MORE comfortable in their job than in their homes.
From the book:
"For three years, Arlie Hochschild interviewed everyone at a Fortune 500 company, from top executives
to factory hands.... The Time Bind exposes the rifts in our crunch-time world and reveals how the way we live and
work isn't working anymore."
Read more about Arlie and her other publications (including The Second Shift: Working Parents and the
Revolution at Home) at:
Good Enough Mothers: Changing Expectations for Ourselves by Melinda M. Marshall, Perterson’s
Marshall writes: "I had but one goal in my endeavor to write this book: I wanted to find role models, women who not only grasped the concept of balance
but had attained it and maintained it, against formidable odds... mothers of young children (six and under) tend to confront the same hurdles, across
all barriers of race, income, or age...."
Using her own interviews as well as various sociological studies, Marshall examines the internal conflict
that many women experience today about whether to devote their lives to a career or to motherhood. "To be utterly torn
between mothering and working," she states, "is the norm for the current generation of women."
"The Good Enough Mother" an essay by Anna Quindlen
Pulitzer Prize winning journalist Anna Quindlen's column from Newsweek magazine presents some of the same ideas Melinda Marshall writes about.
Anna Quindlen is the mother of three kids and often writes about the work/home dilemma:
Mothers Who Think: tales of real-life parenthood, edited by Camille Peri and Kate Moses, Washington
This book came out in 1999. The essays cover a wide range of topics. I've chosen to put the book under the Work/Home Show, because this show so directly
addresses our need to find out what kind of balance works for each of us. Read this book. There's some wonderful mother writers included here. You'll
enjoy it. A great bedside table book:
Mothers Who Think at Salon.com: archived material from a former department at Salon.com
I’m sorry that this department no longer exists at Salon.com, but it is enlightening to look back at the archives, and read some great writing about
Working Mother Magazine
Working Mother Magazine is a great monthly resource for "working" moms. It seems to be geared toward
the nine to five corporate mom, but I think they might want me to think that they’re more inclusive than that. Check
out the link and see how you relate to it:
Strategies for Stay-At-Home Parents, by Kris Berggren, Meadowbrook Press
Author Kris Berggren wrote Strategies for Stay-At Home Parents to help parents define the parenting experience that is right for them. Her book
helps parents wrestle with the various forces that affect the decision to stay home: career, temperament, finances, values, and overall family dynamics.
Kris lives and works in Minneapolis and is a regular contributor to MOMbo. She is a featured interview on the NOW YOU MOMbo Work/Home Show.
The New Homemaker, a website by Lynn Siprelle
From the ABOUT US section of this website: “Who is the New Homemaker? She is the person who has discovered that having both partners in the work
world is not "having it all." Children, elders and the community have been sacrificed for two generations to the crazy notion that households
can run themselves. Well, they can't, and never have. Working parents have struggled valiantly to "have it all," but are increasingly saying "we've
had enough"; someone has to be home. Even single parents are exploring ways to spend more time at home and less at work, or to work at home."
MAMAS INK: Enough Dishes, Already
MamasInk are a bunch of writers who are also mamas. From the site: "We quite often take motherhood as our subject matter, but not always. We're blogging
as a group to support each other in our adventures in writing."
At this writing I am trying to work up my technical skills to figure out how to blog to this site and get
it to link to MOMbo! I know a lot of these women, and I’m in a listserve with them. This site is a great resource for
some great writing about motherhood.
Brain, Child: The Magazine for Thinking Mothers
Brain, Child is a quarterly publication that treats motherhood as a subject worthy of literature. And in the best tradition of literature, it
celebrates the diversity of mothers and their styles. Essays and features address readers as thinking individuals, not just medicine- dispensing, food-fixing,
Brain, Child doesn't have any particular agenda, except to support thought and debate on topics of interest to mothers.
Each issue of Brain,
Child is packed with personal essays, in-depth
features, a debate, a parody, and fiction
The Price of Motherhood: Why the Most Important Job in the World is Still the Least Valued, by Ann
Crittenden, Metropolitan Books
From the book jacket: "Drawing on hundreds of interviews from around the country, as well as the most current research
in economics, sociology, history, child development and law, Crittenden shows how mothers are systematically disadvantaged
and made dependent by a society that celebrates the labor of
child-rearing but undervalues and even exploits those who perform it."
It was wonderful to interview Ann Crittenden, a former reporter for The New York Times, Fortune,
and Newsweek, for "A MOMbo Mother’s Day 2002." That same interview is heard on NOW YOU MOMbo: Moms
"Mothers Ought To Have Equal Rights"
Ann Crittenden is a founding member of Mothers Ought to Have Equal Rights, a grass roots coalition with a mission "to improve the economic well being
of mothers and other family care givers." The suggested reading list contains seven very good books on the subject of motherhood and economic equality
(or lack thereof). There’s many other good resources at this site and the chance to get involved.
"Mothers & More"
Mothers & More is a non-profit organization that cares for the caregiver. They provide opportunities for mothers to connect with one another in ways
that assist them in developing their unique identities as women and help them move more confidently through the transitions that affect their family,
work and life.
Mothers & More was founded in 1987 by Joanne Brundage. Upon the birth of her second child, Brundage left her job as a letter carrier in order to stay
at home full-time to raise her children. She soon felt the stress associated with the transition from full-time employment to at-home motherhood. This
website is full of great resources and the opportunities to connect with other moms, and get involved in a local chapter.
"Mothers Acting Up"
Co-founder Beth Osnes is interviewed on our program, and the title of our program MOMS ACTING UP bears an uncanny similarity to the name of this organization.
What I love about these women is that every Mother’s Day they get moms up on stilts and recite Julia Ward Howe’s Mother's Day Proclamation
for Peace in the streets of our cities. You can start a chapter of Mothers Acting Up in your town. You can be inspired by these creative and strong hearted
women, and you can order their 2005 date book, full of photographs and testimonials of do-good people working at the grass roots of their communities.
I love this organization. I have their decal on the back of my van: a woman with her arms up high, on stilts: MOTHERS ACTING UP!!
"The Mother’s Day Proclamation for Peace" by Julia Ward Howe
In searching the web for a good copy of this poem/proclamation to post, I chose this one. Although you have to view the proclamation with a few ads around
it, it is the most correct version I found. Read this inspiring poem. Learn more about the roots of Mother’s Day.
Here's what I say on this program (this is the short version! Have your daughter do a report on Julia Ward
Howe! Do a one woman play about her! Read this aloud on Mother’s Day in your church, school or at your local coffee
My text from the show:
"I want to tell you about the roots of Mother's Day. In 1870 Julia Ward Howe wrote the Mother's Day Proclamation
for Peace." Howe is best remembered as the author of 'The Battle Hymn of the Republic,' a piece she wrote when visiting
a Union Camp in the midst of the Civil War. Set to the tune of 'John Brown’s Body lies a mouldering in the grave,'
her words became an important reminder to Unionists that the Civil War was about the abolition of slavery."
With the popularity of the Battle Hymn of the Republic, Julia Ward Howe, mother of six children, was asked
to speak publicly often. She spoke most of what she had witnessed: the fighting and disease which killed the soldiers, the
widows and orphans on both sides, and the economic destruction of both North and South. In the 1870's, the Franco Prussian
War was beginning and Julia Ward Howe felt renewed distress about the violence of war. She called for women to rise up and
oppose war in all its forms. Her idea was a Mother’s Day for Peace, a day for mothers of all nationalities to recognize
that what they hold in common is more important than what divides them.
Now here's the "Mother’s Day Proclamation for Peace" on the web:
"National Partnership for Women and Families"
"The National Partnership for Women & Families is a nonprofit, nonpartisan organization that uses public education and advocacy to promote fairness
in the workplace, quality health care, and policies that help women and men meet the dual demands of work and family" (quoted from the website, "about
This is another website that offers resources, links, and opportunities for involvement. If nothing else,
it is good to read up on the kind of action that is underway, and to find out that you’re not crazy when you realize
that the work you do as a family caregiver is the backbone of the society and yet not compensated for in any legitimate way.
Mom, They’re Teasing Me: Helping Your Child Solve Social Problems by Michael Thompson, Lawrence
J. Cohen, with Catherine O’Neill Grace, Ballantine Books
From the book: "Childhood can be a traumatic time. Kids frequently face peer rejection, name-calling, bullying, after-school fights, esteem crushing
cliques, and malicious exclusion by the popular kids... this is a specific hands-on guide for concerned parents who want to give their children the tools
they need to cope with social cruelty..."
Michael Thompson spoke at our school recently and I was impressed with his breadth of knowledge about school
kids and their social interactions. This is a helpful book to have on hand.
I find this site to be a bit perplexing because of the ads that keep popping up, but I found the content to be helpful. When I was choosing a school for
my child I did not have the use of the internet at my fingertips. You probably know better than I do what a HUGE and great resource the net is.... Go
ahead and check out this site as you enter the conundrum of what you need to think about and know:
"Choosing a School: Considering Family Needs and Values"
Within the Greatschools.net site I found this article. I found it helpful. It is written by GreatSchools.net "content partners."
KidStress: Effective Strategies Parents Can Teach Their Kids for School, Family, Peers, the World—and Everything by
Georgia Witkin, Penguin Books
Children today experience more stress and more feelings of vulnerability and anxiety than ever before. And as Dr. Witkin knows, when children are stressed,
so are their parents. But Dr. Witkin's own studies—including a first-ever survey of children themselves—find that parents rarely identify
their children's prime stress factors or see their "secret symptoms." Her refreshing and encouraging book discusses all the major childhood
stressors, from academic pressure, family issues (including sibling and parent conflict), and peer relations to media violence and children's very real
fears about the world around them.
"Learning To Chill" by Susan Schindehette, Joanne Fowler, Margaret Nelson and Jill Westfall
This is an essay that appeared in People Magazine in September of 2002: Overloaded at school and overscheduled at home, stressed-out kids—with
their parents' blessing—are saying 'Enough!'
Drawing with Children: A Creative Teaching and Learning Method That Works for Adults, Too by Mona Brookes, Jeremy
P. Tarcher, publisher
When my son was about four, I got this book. It had a big impact on how I saw and drew with him. He has always been artistic, and I think Mona Brookes’ gentle
style and instruction helped us both. If you like to draw and if you like watching your kids draw, get this book!